Feeling Lost Might Be the Best Thing for You
Letting go of “figuring it out” could lead to real freedom
I spent years searching for my purpose.
It felt like a treasure hunt where the map was either missing or in a language I couldn’t understand.
It appeared that everyone had found theirs.
They had a mission, a calling, a clear direction.
Meanwhile, I drifted from one idea to another, trying to hold onto something that always slipped through my fingers.
Then, one day, I stopped.
Not because I found what I was looking for, but because I realized I didn’t have to find it at all.
I dared to question my approach.
I switched the perspective and decided to admit that I would never find it if I kept clinging to it.
The illusion of a bigger plan
We’re told from a young age that we need a purpose. Everyone asks, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
It’s all about having a reason for being. A big vision that makes every choice clear.
But what if that vision never shows up?
What if your “aha” moment never happens?
For a long time, I thought not knowing my purpose meant I was failing at life. That I was lost. But I’ve realized that feeling lost isn’t a failure.
It’s full of possibilities.
When you let go of the pressure to have everything figured out, something shifts.
Instead of holding on to a strict idea of the future, you start noticing what’s right in front of you. You stop stressing about the distant horizon and focus on the next two or three steps, the only ones you can really see, even if everything around you is foggy.
And that’s where the magic happens.
Clarity is optional
I used to think I needed certainty before taking action and I had to know my destination before starting to walk. But the truth is, movement itself brings clarity.
Each step reveals a little more of the path.
The map you’re looking for only shows up when you stop pretending you have one.
There’s an undeniable freedom in not being tied to a specific outcome.
Instead of chasing an ideal future that might never happen, you get to explore.
You get to follow your instincts, make mistakes, pivot, and try again.
What are you left with? Curiosity!
When you let go of the idea of having just one purpose, curiosity takes the lead.
You become open to unexpected opportunities.
You say yes to things you might have ignored because they didn’t fit into some meticulous life plan.
Many successful people didn’t start with a clear vision.
They followed small signs and interests that led them to surprising places. They embraced uncertainty instead of fighting it. And in doing so, they discovered what they were looking for. Not because they had a plan, but because they allowed themselves to explore.
Take Steve Jobs, for example.
He dropped out of college because he didn’t see the point, yet he kept following his curiosity. He took a calligraphy class just because it fascinated him, not knowing that those lessons would later shape the typography of the first Macintosh.
He didn’t have a grand vision from day one.
He followed what intrigued him.
That’s how he created something revolutionary.
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
Steve Jobs
Being lost isn't so scary anymore!
If you’re feeling lost right now, that’s okay.
It might even be the best thing that’s ever happened to you. It means you’re not stuck on just one path.
You have options!
You can create your way without being held back by what you think you “should” do.
The idea that you need a purpose before you can start is just a myth. The real journey begins when you give yourself the green light to move forward, even without a clear goal.
So, let it go!
Take the next step in front of you. Trust that the road will unfold as you walk.
Because sometimes, not knowing is exactly where you’re meant to be!
Until next time, stay sharp!
Valle
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Yes! Courge is being uncertain but doing it anyways.
What a lovely piece! It's the type of reminder people need read at the right time. I think courage is important too. The courage to trust your instincts in the face of uncertainty.